Have you ever met someone who totally didn’t believe you when you were telling the truth? I can honestly say that until a few weeks ago – I had’t. Now I can’t say that anymore.
I am an honest person. At least I try to be honest. I do have secrets that I don’t share..like most people do, but that’s different than not telling the truth. Sometimes people ask you and almost demand you tell a secret and consider that lying if you withhold the truth. I’m not talking about that either.
What I’m talking about is when you lay it all out there and someone blatantly calls you a liar. Someone accuses you of being totally dishonest – like you have a reason to lie about everything you say. Now my biggest frustration is that when I argue I get the – you’re a liar comment. When I refuse to discuss it, I get “that’s because it’s true and you just don’t want to admit it”. I’ve even tried to give proof, not that it’s easy to do in all situations, but nothing works with some people.
Actually, I’m talking mainly about one person. Yes, just one person who is adamant that I’m lying all the time, that they are okay with it, but that I should just “own” it because they don’t really care that it’s true. BUT I TOTALLY CARE! What this person wants me to admit to IS NOT TRUE.
Right now I’m at the point that I can’t see any way to reason with this person…and I guess that’s what irritates me the most – they this person is questioning my integrity which counters my personal brand. You know, who I am as a person. I’m in a no win situation. UGH!
I’ve always thought of myself as a good sales person..but I must be losing my touch because I can’t sell it to this person or figure out a way to redeem my good name. I want justice…without having to tell my friend where to shove it!
If I care enough to be blogging about this, it must be important to me. The thing is – this person has been important to me too – and maybe these are signs that they are just not someone I should have in my life. If I can’t share honestly and also feel respected when I do, then that brings into serious question whether or not it’s worth my time to continue this friendship. I guess that’s what I need to decide next – is this a friendship I can live with if they make me feel so negatively about myself. Maybe not. Tell me what you think!
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